While walking in the store recently, I was aware that I wasn't looking so amazing due to the storm that had passed through and my hair had gotten wet and soggy and gross, I also take note that I am aware I am not the "Ideal, Socially Accepted beautiful woman" The world thinks I ought to be and I have lived now almost 21 years and am okay with myself and comfortable enough to say that I really do not care what other people think anymore.
The problem that I encountered is not an issue because I was offended but because of the people around me who were. I walked down an aisle searching for a certain type of marinade for my sister, my brother who is ten lagged behind as ten year olds often do in the store. When he reached me he looked upset and when I talked with him, he explained that a woman had turned to her daughter, pointed at me and started saying some negative things about me.
Let me explain something to everyone, I do not care if you say negative things about me, I do not care if you have an opinion. That is the Human Thing to do. It would not surprise as I explained to my parents when I arrived home, that if when I walk through places if 3 or 4 people stopped and talked about me, because I am aware again, I am not the stereotypical normal person that the world see's I should be.
What I have a problem with and what saddens me is when people think it's okay to talk about people without regard to who is around them. It saddens me that I had to sit and explain to my brother why people who have never met me, would say such rude and derogatory things about me. It breaks my heart that, that woman is teaching her daughter if you have an opinion about the way a person is or walks or talks, you should whisper and say awful things about them and you should do it publicly.
While I am not perfect and I am sure in the past I have done this. I find shame in my own actions, because words are the scarring force and this knife that in the end will put a lot of people over the edge people pay no respect for. While I am no where near the edge, and this doesn't hurt me in the way it maybe should, there are other people who may be close and that dagger you spit out of your self centered mouth is going to poke them over the cliff. We are human and do this, and I understand, You may see someone walking in the store, in the mall, on campus or maybe even at the bank and you will look and whisper, but remember that they will hear you at some point, while you blindly believe that you are so clever and quiet, (Which you are NOT.) And you are going to find yourself in a very ugly situation.
Suicide is an occurrence you hear more and more about, Outbursts where someone lost their temper and turned around and punched someone we also hear about more and more and people becoming hardened to the world are having done so from this horrible experience and I think that this little phenomenon of trashing people and giving your two cents needs to stop. After all one of the best things I have learned is this: When saying something think to your self, no matter who is around.
"Is it helpful? Is it hurtful? Is it necessary?"
I think if we (including myself) can amount to changing and taking into consideration the thoughts and feelings of another person, we can have a happier and better life.
Have a good day.
Alyssa
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